Success Tips: No More Blame Game

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Anybody who has been around kids for very long knows that the Blame Game is alive and well. “It’s not my fault!” “It wasn’t me, it was him!” Or “I couldn’t, because (fill in the blank).” Wait a minute–that sounds like some adults in business.

Avoiding responsibility for a situation comes naturally, but it really rears its head when the crunch is on. I can think of three common situations when making excuses tends to the be the default reaction, and I’m sure you can think of more:

  • When the to-do list and a deadline collide
  • When it’s scary to do something
  • When it’s convenient to blame someone for what we didn’t get done

Let’s look at these situations one by one:

When the To-Do List and a Deadline Collide

Looking at a long to-do list then glancing at our calendar can lead to a feeling of panic. When we start thinking “impossible” the next order of business is to look for an escape. Of course there are times when the list is totally unrealistic, but often we stamp “no way” on a project just because it looks hard.

Since it seems overwhelming we start looking for the exit clause by blaming our schedule or our headache or our kids. We expect our supervisor to understand our special circumstances and give us a break.

“It’s not my fault!”

Unfortunately this attitude is rampant in our society these days.

When It’s Scary to Do Something

This one’s a little tricky because we don’t usually realize what we’re doing. When faced with an uncomfortable task that stretches us, we seek to avoid the discomfort by consoling ourselves with excuses of why we can’t possibly do the thing.

“I couldn’t because…”

When we voice the excuses and others are quick to agree with us we think we’re off the hook. Except that deep down we’re disappointed in ourselves.

When It’s Convenient to Blame Someone for What We Didn’t Get Done

This is reminiscent of the kids….”It wasn’t me, it was him!” We get into such a habit of mentally assigning blame to everyone and everything except ourselves that we start believing it. Not only do we hold ourselves back from achieving things that would bring great rewards, we water and fertilize resentment and bitterness towards the people we blame. What’s sad is that they’re often family members.

So what’s a blamer to do?

Turn on the blame radar. Take a good look at your thoughts and reactions and see how often they turn to blame.

Meanwhile, here are a few good quotes to chew on:

“Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.” ~ George Washington Carver

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” ~ Wayne Dyer

“The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely to be the one who dropped it.” ~ Lou Holtz

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” ~ Jim Rohn

“Success on any major scale requires you to accept responsibility….In the final analysis, the one quality that all successful people have is the ability to take on responsibility.” ~ Michael Korda

So what does this look like in real life? Three short tips you can start doing now:

  1. Catch yourself blaming–quick–and stop it.
  2. Change your language. Rather than “I have to stay home because the kids are sick” say “I choose to stay home.” “I have to” isn’t true—you could make other arrangements. You’re making a choice based on your priorities. Either way, it’s a completely differently feeling to acknowledge personal choice rather than thinking you’re helplessly forced into a circumstance.
  3. Think solutions rather than problems. Searching for excuses keeps you focused on why you can’t. Figuring out how you WILL accomplish the task gives you energy and power.

Admitting that you’ve been playing the Blame Game isn’t exactly fun. But getting out of the game will lead to better productivity, more success and even greater happiness. The next move is yours.

Charlotte_SiemsCharlotte Siems is a happy wife and mom of twelve who is a speaker, author and coach. After losing 100 pounds with T-Tapp, she became a Master T-Tapp Trainer, sharing her encouraging story with people all over the world. She has built a successful online business and writes about family life and T-Tapp at www.ThisLovelyPlace.com. Charlotte’s life experiences and training have uniquely qualified her to help others create a successful family and business.

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Melissa Michel
Melissa Michel
10 years ago

Great post, Charlotte! We all need to take responsibility for our actions instead of blaming others!

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gomovies123
3 years ago

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